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Peer Pressure
如何面对同伴的压力?
1
(Janice, Melanie and Peter are in Trey's house. Trey takes out a pack of cigarettes.)
T: Hey, ladies. Wanna smoke?
M: No, thanks.
T: Oh, come on. It won't kill you.
J: I'll try some; but just a little.
M: (M grabs J's arm and whispers in her ear) That stuff is dangerous. You barely know these guys.
J: (whispering back) Don't worry. I know my limits.
T: You? Mel.
(M is frustrated)
P: Come on. Don't be such a high schooler.
J: There isn't anything wrong with it, Mel. Trust me.
M: OK, just a try. Hmmm... NO! WAIT! I'LL NEVER SMOKE.
T: Ha-ha. Look at this baby.
M: (getting angry) The only baby around here is you! I'm leaving.
P: Bye-bye, little one.
(Everyone laughs.)
(M is greeted by her brother at home.)
B: Hey, Mel, did you hang out with your friends today?
M: They are not my friends any more. They tried pressuring me to smoke, and they laughed at me when I refused. (being very angry)
B: Are you OK?
M: I'm great. I'VE NEVER FELT BETTER.
2
A cafeteria line with four girls. Three of the girls have already chosen salads for their lunches. The fourth girl initially thinks she wants a hamburger and fries. She looks perplexed as she thinks about the other three girls with their salads and about making choices: hamburger and fries or salad? Finally, she chooses the salad.
Good and Bad Pressures
There are two kinds of peer pressure—good and bad. Good peer pressure could get you involved in activities like youth groups, volunteering, or team sports. Your friends can be a source of sympathy, companionship and understanding—all good things.
Bad peer pressure encourages irresponsible and sometimes illegal behavior. You may feel pressured to try all kinds of things, such as smoking, drinking, drugs, etc. The words“just try it once”can be really dangerous.
Risk Factors
There are certain“risk factors”—personality traits that make you more prone to give in to peer pressure:
﹡Low self-esteem
﹡Lack of confidence
﹡Uncertainty about your place within a given peer group
﹡No personal interests exclusive of your peer group
﹡Feeling isolated from peers or family
﹡Lack of direction in life
﹡Depression
﹡Eating disorders
﹡Poor academic abilities or performance
﹡Fear of your peers
﹡Lack of strong ties to friends, feeling that friends could turn on you easily or with little reason
﹡Close bond with a bully.
Tips to Fight Bad Peer Pressure
﹡Know who to listen to and who to avoid.
﹡Be happy with the person you are and don't look at others and wish to be like them.
﹡Don't let people's comments get you down.
﹡When you believe strongly about something, speak out.
﹡Don't be scared to let people know who you are.
﹡If you're in a situation where saying no is hard, try to ignore the pressure, move away from the situation, or use humor to decline to participate7.
什么是同伴压力？
同伴压力分积极、消极两种。积极的同伴压力可以促使你参与青年组织、志愿者服务或是团体运动之类的活动。朋友是你获取同情、友谊和谅解等等好处的源泉。
消极的同伴压力会鼓动你做出一些不负责任、有时甚至是违法的行为。你也许会受到压力去尝试抽烟、喝酒、吸毒等等之类的事情。“就试一次”，这句话真的十分危险。
危险因素
某些危险的因素，即你自身的一些性格特征，会让你更容易屈服于同伴压力。
☆自尊心差
☆缺乏自信
☆不清楚自己在一个特定同龄群体中的位置
☆除了同龄群体没有其他个人爱好
☆感到与同伴或家人的关系生疏
☆缺乏人生的方向
☆沮丧
☆饮食不规律
☆学习能力或成绩差
☆对自己的同伴有恐惧感
☆跟朋友间没有牢固的关系，觉得朋友很容易或会无缘无故背叛你。
☆与欺凌弱小者为伍。
如何抵抗消极的同伴压力
☆清楚自己应该听谁的，应该避开谁。
☆自己做人要开心。不要参照别人，不要随波逐流。
☆不要因他人的评论而感到沮丧。
☆如果你对某事坚信不疑，那就把它说出来。
☆不要害怕别人知道你的为人。
☆ 如果你遇到难以拒绝的情形，试着别理它、离开那里，或用幽默的手段来谢绝参与。 |
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